"You keep having the same problem because you haven't learned the lesson it's trying to teach you…"

This statement was said by a Youtuber and I was surprised by how much I resonated with it. I assume everyone can resonate with it in one way or another.

Whether it's personally, professional, academically or spiritually, we've all been challenged and forced to learn something in a way that'll hopefully help us to grow from what we have been through.

Often times we might find ourselves asking "why does this always happen to me?" or "why am I always put in these types of situations?"

→ But the meaning of insanity is doing the same this over and over again, expecting different results. I don't believe that 100% of everything happens for a reason but I do believe that 99% of things do.

In uncomfortable situations, or any situation really, I try to ask myself, "what am I being pushed to learn? What can I take from this?" Especially if I don't want to be put in that situation again.

→ You have to ask yourself, "what steps can I put in place to ensure that it never happens again?"

→ Because if it becomes a repeated event then it's probably because you haven't learned what you should have... and more importantly, you haven't implemented what you've learned in a way that ensure it never happens again.

But it's easier said than done. 😅

For (recovering) people pleasers like myself, I used to constantly be in situations where I felt like I was being taken advantage off. My need to want to make sure that the people around me are comfortable and happy can be seen as weakness to some. Then I'd find myself in a position where I felt let down and disappointed.

Eventually I became less disappointed in the person and more disappointed in myself for letting this same thing happen over and over again… for not learning from my mistakes.

As painful as the situations were, I believe that some 'good' has come out of it. I find myself a lot better at reading people and being a lot more socially aware of other people's feelings and emotions.

Nowadays I find myself much more in-tune with my surroundings and I am able to check-in with myself on whether or not I need to be in some situations, and if it'll be healthier for me to remove myself all together.

"Putting yourself first" sometimes just means being able to tell yourself the hard truths and learn from them!